Goodnight, David Aaron Clark

David Aaron Clark passed away of a pulmonary embolism at around 4 p.m. yesterday afternoon. He was 49.

From AVN:

Clark's untimely demise came just three days after he received multiple nominations in the 2010 AVN Awards race for his latest epic, Pure, which also happened to be his very first project for Evil Angel.

I only met David on a few occasions, but some of my friends were quite close to him. His loss is being felt throughout the adult industry.

Goodnight, David.

My Identity Box, or Yours?

Patrick Califia takes aim at our attachment to labels: "Do we lose something when we polarize certain behaviors or desires and think of them as opposites? Well, of course!"

"... But humans are such tricky and complicated animals that every time we think we understand ourselves and have a way to describe it, we defeat our own wisdom, slip out of the boxes, and turn into something else."

Thank goodness for that.

MaxCita

The great MaxCita has been making restrictive gear since 1985 (check out the "Inside-Out" straitjacket). They have some gorgeous heavy-duty gasmasks based on military masks, with hand-poured latex transforming them into a heavy rubberist's dream.

I've always wanted a denim sleepsack... lined in horsehair. Punishing a slave would be a simple matter, then.

How long do you think you would last with every bit of your naked skin tormented by itchy hair? How hard would you beg, what would you desperately agree to, for me to stay my hand and spare you The Bag?

Kinky King Latex

Kinky King Latex has some unique latex bondage gear (check out the "gimp sack"). They're U.S.-based and very reasonably priced.

Their gear can be made in a variety of heavier-gauge thicknesses, including 1.2 mm. Imagine your entire torso encased in a rubber straitjacket as thick as a belt... YUM.

Axsmar

About Link Library: I have amassed a huge collection of kinky links, and I've decided to dig into my personal bookmark folders and share the wealth. It'll be mostly suppliers of fetish gear and clothing, but also some lifestyle groups and educational resources. Enjoy!

I found this fantasy-inducing metal bondage gear site, Axsmar (courtesy of SexNShoes.com). Love the arm traps, the simple and elegant spreader bars, and the unique cross cuffs.

Travel Update

I will be in San Francisco from November 18th to November 21st, then Los Angeles from November 22nd to November 28th.

I will be taking sessions in both cities, with priority given to established clients. My time in SF is scarce, but I will be catching up with some Mistress friends and possibly touring dungeons, so stay tuned for details.

The playspace I'll be using in Los Angeles is one of the most beautifully equipped, private spaces in the metro area, and was featured in DDI magazine's "Domina Files" series. It has three rooms, two St. Andrew's crosses, a sling, bondage table with cage base, Fetters spanking bench, and more.

Be sure to book early for time and equipment/wardrobe requests. Those of you who have been quietly following me for years: this is your opportunity to serve me in person!

Until then, my lovelies...

RACK vs. SSC

The play party is in full swing. You're standing by a bondage cross, watching a handcuffed sub take thirteen strokes of the cane, when a tall, dark-haired woman strides up to you.

"You look new. What is your name?" she asks in a silken voice.

Once you've both introduced yourselves, she leads you to a quiet corner to talk. She's interested in playing with you, and you'd love to submit, but you're nervous about disappointing her. She asks if you have experience with ________ , and you don't, but you're curious, and you want to try. So you lie and say, "Oh, once or twice... it was a while ago... it'll be fine."

If she proceeds without making sure you know all the risks, are you truly consenting? If you withhold information from her, is she truly consenting?

Consent is a fundamental part of the kinky credo, hence RACK and SSC (Risk-Aware, Consensual Kink, and Safe, Sane, and Consensual). BDSM is powerful stuff, and to get the most out of play, we have to respect it, ourselves, and each other.

Play smart, have fun!

Tell Lita Ford and The Stockroom Your Fantasy

The Stockroom is having a Fantasy Fiction Essay Contest. The theme is "Wicked Wonderland", and the top prize is a guitar signed by Lita Ford. Runners-up get prizes from the Stockroom.

My no-holds-barred playground would have lots of attachment points for chains and ropes, plenty of rubber, good drainage... and a central courtyard suitable for exhibitions. The rest of the luscious details are for me to know, and you to feverishly imagine.

How would you describe your kinky dream in five hundred words or less?